29-Year-Old Grandmother Had It Coming
So I read this article that Stir Cafemom did on "29-Year-Old Grandmother Had It Coming" about how a woman in the UK was going to be considered the youngest Grandmother at age 29. There were tons of comments on what the grandmother had to be thinking and what she should and shouldn't have done so heres my opinion.
I have sat here and read every single one of the comments about this article. There are many things that many have written that I find absurd and down right dumb. Teens will be teens. They will choose to do what they feel is right and wron...g themselves. It doesn't matter if we sit with them at home every night watching them. They will just skip school the next day. I was a teenage mom. I was 15 when I had my daughter and she is 16 now. She is a wonderful smart and open child. She is also on birth control and although she knows my wishes to wait until she is ready and at an age where she will be able to emoitionaly handle sex we both know that she will do what she wants. My point to this is we don't know all the answers of what the grandmother did or didn't say. We don't know what the 14 year old was thinking. I do know that I have discussed with both my teenage daughters (my other daughter is 13) the importance of sex and what it means. And when my second daughter is ready or thinks she might be then I will also take her to the doctor as well. But no matter how much I have spoken educated and taken premitive steps to avoid teenage pregenancy it still doesn't mean it wont happen. In this society we should be more supporative not condeming. Look at the resources we had and now what they have. My life wasn't easy and I had to do it on my own because my father was like many of you. Get an aboration, get married. If you didn't think I could handle a child what made you think I could handle those decisions. I have heard baby raising baby and numberous taunts and back lashing. But I never once heard encouragment understanding or just acceptance as a person. All of my children are happy heathly and growing. They are straight A students who for the most part make good choices. But understand that I at 15 started them on this path and she in two years will graduate high school like I did and go to college like I did. It's not about what's right or wrong it's about what we can do to be better. Some might not have the influences to show them how to make good choices. We just don't know. We could be the next teenagers answer or gift to stop them from making those kind of choices. But if all we do is sit here and judge and condemn then we are no better or smarter the the teenagers and we learned nothing. You never know whom or what you might learn fix or change if for just two seconds we keep an open mind. I do know this after reading this comments I was a much better person and parent at 15 then some of the people who made comments.Dont judge, encourage, support and just be kind. Sometimes all teens want is someone who will listen without the advice shoved down their throats. The kids these days are smart and who know's maybe you could make a difference in their lives
What do you guys think?
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