When your family is crazy!!!!!!!!!!!

I got a text the other day from one of my nieces saying her dad was mad. I ask her why. She says because I am talking to you. Really I mean seriously. The girl looks just like me. And now she is curious since my brother never told her about her aunts. So I asked her why? I mean what could you possibly not like so much about me that you would tell your child not to talk to me. You know what she tells me "hes says's your trouble". Trouble. I have a job and am raising my kids. I have never done drugs and only drink socially occasionally. I went to high school (with this family member) and college. I graduated with a degree and do accounting for a living. I speak to my father and other members of our family. My children are happy healthy and do well in school. I have really great friends that I love. I am not overly dramatic and have obviously grown up considering I am raising three teenagers of my own. SO how could I be trouble? You know what upsets me most. When I first started speaking to my niece on a social website. (Yes I have always known about them and I knew their mother) she mentioned her dad and my responses were good ones. " I know he loves you, I know he has always wanted you. He will be there for you. Just talked to him if your upset." Although I haven't spoken to my brother in years, I still said nice things about him. Things that we should be saying because we are family. I am a very loyal person. I have always been this way since I was little. I don't know why and it's probably why I'm still single but I have always been loyal. And now the only brother I have is not. He's telling people, his children, our own blood, I'm trouble. THAT HURTS.

We used to be close my brother and I when we were all little. There are only a handful of memories I have that I can recall my brother playing with us or being with us. He was a boy after all and my twin and I were girls. But they are good memories. Us playing in the back yard. Our white poodle BOBO running and chasing us. Our dog Poochie. Our drill team and his football. Our peewee activities and things like that. Of course things changed in high school. He was older and we were three years younger. But it was like he was embarrassed of us. No one even knew he had sisters when we started high school. He used to have to drive us and of course we couldn't talk to him. UGHH teenage boys, but I still thought he loved us. I loved him.  I would have done anything he asked me back then. I still would. If I had to choose between me or him living I would choose him. I would give him a kidney if he needed it but after that conversation he had with his daughter I don't think he would. We were all close, the three of  us, when we became adults. We used to hang out together go play pool and hang out together. We all spent New Year's together at my sister's house. I don't really know when everything changed but I do know once he got married things were different. I know what your thinking little sister not wanting to share and it really wasn't like that. We were nice to my sister in law. I mean yes we did grow up differently, she with both her parent's and close family, us with our everything is perfect on the outside family.  We did talk my sister in law and I. I thought we were friends up until about two years ago and then she just stopped talking to me. I don't know why or what her reasons are but about the time my grandmother died she just stopped Every once in a while she would text or something but then nothing for months on end. It's cool though she's busy I was busy so I never really let it bother me till now. I understand that her family is really close and ours although I do love my father's side of the family and no matter what they do or say to almost anyone (excluding other family members) I will stand up for them, my brother and nieces and nephews have two families. She may not want to be included with us but they are blood. What happened to blood is thicker then water? What happened to family first? Recently I went to our mall and saw my other niece there with her mom (different moms) and of course I stopped and hugged and spoke to her, she's my niece. Her mother and my brother dated in high school. We were all friends back then. She taught us how to shuffle cards fancy style and I went to play with my niece when she was a baby. I was still a teenager back then and you know how life is, Not that it's an excuse but it's what happened. So now that my beautiful wonderful niece is giving me a chance. I'm taking it. We are a family and if I have loyalty for my siblings then I should for my nieces and nephews as well. I got a text message from my sister in law asking if I had been talking to her. And when I said yeah I had seen them at the mall her reply "That figures"

 I don't know if my brother feels this way or if it's her feelings pushed on him. I do know the men in our family let women dictate for them.(my awful step mother it's a another story I will tell you later) so maybe it's not him but her or maybe it's both. Or maybe it is me. Either way I don't know what to do or think, I don't want to go through life without my brother but at the same time I don't what to be around someone who doesn't want me. So what do you do. I mean how awkward would a family get together be. Not that we really have them anymore. SO my question is this. How do you fix this?????????????????